True love graciously lets go.”
This was TV host Kris Aquino’s message as she finally opened up about her failed relationship with Quezon City Mayor Herbert Bautista.
Aquino admitted she got hurt when she watched Bautista’s television interview where he admitted that he no longer wants to get back with her.
Bautista was placed on the hot seat in Bandila’s “Yes or No” segment last June 6 regarding the real story behind his relationship with Aquino.
He was asked a series of questions on the topic, and why the relationship abruptly came to an end last April.
Baustista was first grilled on whether the two were ever in a relationship.
He quickly answered yes but was clearly taken aback when host Karen Davila followed up with: “Mahal mo ba si Kris Aquino?”
The mayor tried to dodge the question, saying he will let the segment’s allotted time to run out before answering yes or no.
But after seeing that the hosts were adamant for an answer, Bautista replied: “Oo.”
The former actor was then prodded further on whether he would like to get back together with the actress or if he would ever court Aquino again, to which he answered “no” to both.
On Sunday, Aquino said she “tried to keep quiet” about the issue – a difficult task considering that she has two daily talk shows, “Kris TV” and “Aquino & Abunda Tonight,” plus “The Buzz” on Sundays.
“Ironic nga na siya naman ang unang nagsalita when ako ‘yung expected ng lahat na mag-overshare,” Aquino noted. “I did keep quiet for one very human reason. I got hurt for that very same reason because I truly loved him.”
“In a perfect world, the love you give the person you love will be the same type of love that he will give you. At magiging tama ang timing niyong dalawa na lahat ng mga mahal niyo, lahat ng mga taong mahalaga at may responsibilidad kayo sa kanila, handa na rin silang intindihin kayo,” she added.
Aquino also said her sons supported her relationship with Bautista.
“Bimb was very vocal in saying he did like HB because he made mama happy. Kahit seven years old lang si Bimb, sabi niya he just wants his mama to be happy. My two sons were ready to share me and my love,” she said.
Although it was difficult, she said she had faith in their relationship.
“When he asks you to spend your life with him, you do say yes kasi naniniwala ka that everything will fall into place because what you have, you will feel it was meant to be. You have faith in forever,” she said.
“For someone who came from heartbreak, that was so hard to believe in forever again. And you believed that he wasn’t going to play games. And you believed na meron ka ng lifetime companion,” Aquino explained.
When the relationship did not push through, Aquino said she opted to see the breakup from Bautista’s perspective, because she is also a parent.
Bautista had earlier admitted that relationship ended because of his children. “Yung mga anak ko siyempre. I love my children,” he has said.
Bautista has two children – Athena, 18, and Harvey, 10 — with long-time girlfriend Tates Gana.
Aquino revealed that Bautista had even talked to her son James “Bimby” Yap Jr.
“You forgive dahil kahit sinaktan ka, mahal na mahal mo pa rin siya and kahit paano, humanga ka pa rin sa kanya. Kasi personal niyang pinuntahan si Bimb, kinausap niya yung anak ko man to man. Simple siyang nag-sorry kay Bimb kasi alam niyang nakita ni Bimb na nasaktan ako at nakita ni Bimb na umiiyak ako. Somehow he knew that he should set an example for Bimb,” she added.
“As a gentleman, even when you do go through a breakup, boys should own up to it and say sorry. And that sons will always instinctively feel yung pain na nararamdaman ng nanay nila at gugustuhin na protektahan ang nanay. Because he loves his children so much, he knows na significant ang feelings ng mga bata,” she said.
Aquino admitted that prior to Bautista’s interview on “Bandila,” she expected have a second shot at their failed relationship.
“Somehow, you find the strength to rebuild the friendship. And when he tells you na babalik siya kapag naayos na ang lahat ng kailangan niyang ayusin, starting with fixing himself, because mahal mo siya, aasa ka. And every day magdadasal ka. Ang prayer mo, sana God it’s part of your will that we will be together in the future,” Aquino admitted.
“Tapos isang gabi makakanood ka sa ‘Bandila,’ and you hear him answer about you,” she continued. “And it wakes you up to reality na wala pala talagang somewhere down the road para sa inyo and you can’t stop crying because ‘yung future na ikala mo, ‘yung pinagdarasal mo, that future that kept you going, that dream just disappears.”
Despite this, Aquino left a message for Bautista.
“I don’t want to make a mistake sa sasabihn ko kasi simple lang ang mensahe ko. True love graciously lets go,” she said.
“Sincere ito, para kay Mayor Herbert, from my heart, I really wish that kung anong magpapaligaya sa buhay mo, kung ano ang kukumpleto sa ‘yo bilang tao, sana lahat ng ‘yun mapunta talaga sa ‘yo, sana makamit mo ‘yun.”
“Kahit hindi nga maganda ang naging ending natin, ito yung first time na nakapagsalita ako na hindi ako umiiyak, hindi ako galit. Grateful lang ako na dumating ka sa buhay ko. Someday, sana maging magkaibigan pa rin tayo,” she said. (MNS)